Seeing the Bigger Picture Can Help You Find More Inner Peace

Sometimes, peace doesn’t come from fixing what happened.
​It comes from seeing it differently.

On the page of Spontaneous Insights  you can also find the original video and the audio version.
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There’s a deeper story underneath the moments that trigger us. A soul-level story. One that doesn't begin with blame or shame—but with awareness.

This post comes from a video I recorded, inspired by a reaction I witnessed between two people. One commented harshly on a public video. I felt a wave move through me—not of judgment, but of insight. I knew I had to speak. And this is what came through.
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Why Judgment Is a Distraction From Healing​

When we’re triggered by someone else’s expression—by their rawness, their sexuality, their brokenness—it often reveals something about our own pain. We may rush to label it: “They’re sick,” “They’re bad,” “They’re dangerous.” But the deeper truth is this: when someone’s truth stirs discomfort in us, it might be because it’s pointing to an unhealed part of us.

​What if, instead of judging, we paused and asked: What does this touch in me?
What belief? What fear? What memory?

This is where real healing begins.
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​My Own Story: From Idealism to Soul Clarity

I speak from experience. I've lived through messy relationships—ones that felt like love, but were shaped by unhealed parts of me. I was the “perfect man” on the outside. Emotionally available. Conscious. But something deeper was still playing out. A pattern. A wound.
My Own Story: From Idealism to Soul Clarity

And yes, I fell. I hurt. I was addicted. Not to substances—but to the fantasy, the escape, the approval, the illusion of connection. And in the aftermath, I had to sit with my shame. My grief. My disillusionment.

And from that silence came a knowing:
This wasn’t punishment. It was precision. A soul-designed experience to help me wake up.
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Seeing the Bigger Picture​

When we zoom out from our triggers, a wider view becomes available:

• The people we attract are often mirrors.
  
• The conflicts we repeat are echoes of earlier wounds.
  
• The betrayals we experience crack open truths we’ve avoided.
  

Does this mean we excuse bad behavior? No. But it means we no longer use it to keep ourselves trapped in blame.

We start to see soul contracts—agreements we made (unconsciously or energetically) to grow through certain people, experiences, and pain.

And when we see that… even the worst moments become part of our liberation.
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The Power of Zooming Out​

From the soul's perspective:

• That partner who betrayed you? They might’ve been showing you the part of you that abandoned yourself long ago.
• That friend who criticized you? They might’ve been activating a hidden shame you've never spoken out loud.
• That breakdown? It may have been your soul’s way of breaking you open.

Zooming out doesn’t make pain disappear—but it softens the grip of the story. It brings in compassion. Perspective. Peace.

And over time, it invites you into sovereignty—where your healing no longer depends on someone else changing, apologizing, or understanding.
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What I Hope You Remember​

• You’re not broken. You’re unfolding.
  
• The people who trigger you are also in their own sacred, messy process.
  
• Judgment might feel satisfying in the moment—but curiosity leads to freedom.
  
• You can hold people accountable and hold yourself in grace.
  
• Zooming out is an act of self-love.
  

We’re all in Earth school. And every encounter—especially the difficult ones—might be your next teacher.
If this touched something in you, I invite you to sit with it. Breathe with it. Let it echo.
And if you’d like to watch the video version of this message, it’s here.

With care,
Lotfi